Lev. 18:22, "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination."
My gay friend Harlowe and I were having lunch the other day sa isang karinderia. We were also having a somewhat heated argument.
Harlowe looked at me with his puppy-dog eyes, seemingly asking for forgiveness and understanding for what he just said.
"Bookie, alam kong kakaiba yung opinion ko pero that's just it. It's my opinion," Harlowe said, empathically, while spearing a piece of lechon kawali with his fork, "You of all people should know how to respect another person's opinon, di ba?"
Napalunok ako. Oo nga naman, opinion niya yun eh. Ano nga ba ang pakialam ko?
Pero hindi eh, parang may mali.
So I argued again.
"Harlowe, what I just don't get is how a gay guy can be against same sex-marriages?" I asked him for the nth time, "Gay guys are supposed to be about liberty and freedom and all that bohemian shit."
"Hindi mo ba naisip na mali na nga yung ginagawa natin, tapos mamaliin pa natin yung sacred ceremony of marriage?" Harlowe asked.
And I guess yun ang pinakaproblema ko sa argument niya. Mali ang tingin niya sa pagiging bading.
I always thought all gay guys were pro-same sex marriage. Apparently not. Throughout my long stay here in PS, and ever since I came out, I've gotten to know quite a lot of gay guys who aren't into the idea of same sex marriage.
Parang ang iniisip nila, kababuyan na nga ang pagiging bading, bababuyin pa ba namin ang simbahan?
Pero how can love be wrong? How can you qualify two people in love as sacrilegious?
Harlowe is a close and dear friend of mine. He's a smart, intelligent and talented guy (not to mention good-looking). He is also quite a devout born-again christian. Hence, his views on homosexuality are based on what he has learned from the bible.
I want to understand his flow of thoughts pero I'm having a real hard time, as he is with mine.
I've always prided myself in being open to other people's opinions pero I'm having trouble reconciling some gay guys' rejection of same-sex marriage.
I think its the deep-seated belief in most homosexuals na mali talaga maging homosexual.
And I can't accept the fact na mali ang pagiging bading ko. I will not ever. Bakla ako. So fucking what di ba? Does that mean na I can't have the right of heterosexuals to get married?
Centuries ago, people thought the earth was flat. That was proven wrong. Who's to say that in the future, malalaman ng mga tao na ok lang pala maging bading?
"Love is love is love," I told Harlowe, "If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise."
"Why are you so intent on the right to marriage? It's just a piece of paper," Harlowe asked.
What I couldn't explain to him then was the fact that I dream of getting married to Mr. Right in the future. I think marriage is the ultimate display of two people's love towards each other. It signifies more than a religious ceremony, it exhibits society's acceptance of their love.
Tapos gusto ko yung bouquet ko gusto ko isang bungkos na santan na pula tapos ang wedding singer si Jed Maddela (ang song ay "If I Believe" tsaka "Ako ang Nagwagi"). Garden wedding, or maybe beach wedding. Tapos ang food puro isaw at kwekwek (pero according sa menu, canapes and hors' douvres ang handa.)
Sabi ng isang supervisor-friend ko, "Gay guys who aren't ok with same-sex marriages just haven't truly accepted their homosexuality. Issues nila yun."
Or maybe they haven't met the right one. You know what, I read in an article that not all gay guys are happy that they are gay. Isn't that sad? It hurts my heart to hear something like that.
This is not a fault of theirs, obviously. Again, it all boils down to people's own opinions.
Pero nalulungkot talaga ako. Kung hindi matanggap ng mga bading ang sarili nila, paano pa kami matatanggap ng iba?
Mali ba talaga maging bading? Naguguluhan na ako.